Better Than Fairytales

Sorry for not posting; computer troubles are the pits!  But that’s not why I’m here.  I’m here to help you start the week with a smile.  Friday, Mom and I watched The Young Victoria, which I had never seen before.  Friends, this film is right up my street.  It’s a historical adaptation of a strong woman who did real changes with the help of her loving husband.   This was some real life fairy tale stuff.  I’m a sucker for this.

Look, I’m about to start gushing, so… fair warning.  Also spoilers I guess?

Prince Albert is The Actual Dream™.   Even though he initially goes to England at his Uncle’s insistence armed with the knowledge of Victoria’s favorite things, he wises up and tells her what he likes after she indicates that this echo chamber thing he’s doing is failing.  He’s honest with her, and listens with genuine interest.  Dude even learns to waltz when she says that she enjoys it!  He sent her the 19th century equivalent of a mixtape.  I’m slain.  The man has no interest in controlling her or manipulating her; he just wants to help.   She’s Queen and he is all about the consort life because he freaking loves her.  Oh yeah; he saved her life too.  Took a bullet for her. Because love.

And it’s not like it was unrequited either.  As Queen, Victoria had to be the one to propose.  She valued his input and pulled in an additional desk into her study so that they could co-rule.  She wore black and a veil for forty years after he died and had his clothes laid out for him every morning until she followed.  Just destroy me.

This nonsense has me wanting to make a princess because I have feelings but you know what can top this?  Nothing; the answer is nothing.  So instead I end up staring at my screen, struggling to come up with anything remotely as beautiful and inspiring as the story of Queen Victoria and the love and companionship she shared with Prince Albert.  I just can’t, folks.

By the way, Prince Albert designed (and commissioned) at least three tiaras for his wife.   How romantic is that?

Love and smiles,




Let me try to preface this with some context;

Sometime within the past few months, I began watching a news Youtuber named Philip DeFranco.  He’s refreshing in that he tries to give you all sides of a story and doesn’t bank on fear.  He gives me perspective and I need that.  Occasionally he brings up a story that makes me really think.  I’ll add the link for today’s video at the end, because that’s what brought this thought to the forefront of my mind.

In the comments, youtube users are frequently toxic.  I hate all of these titles used to belittle and dismiss people as unworthy of acknowledgement, like libtard or sjw or sheeple.  They’re not doing anything to further any conversations and I don’t even really understand most of the terms.  They’re so overused that they’ve lost all meaning to me.  All I get from these words are intolerance and dismissal.  Like my opinion is worthless because it’s different.  This is ultimately damaging to everyone; just look at news networks.  Or facebook comments.

Today, I feel small and idealistic and lost with my handful of opinions and I just want the truth and some acceptance of each other.

I know that this is a lot and I don’t need a response. I just wanted to throw this out there.  Hopefully writing about it will be cleansing.

Imagine others complexly, friends.



Fixing the Smile

Hey fam, happy Friday!

As you’ve undoubtedly noticed, I have been garbage at posting on, well, everywhere.  You don’t deserve that.  But more than that, I need to be more active in communicating with you for my own sake.  So I’m going to throw down some goals;

  1. Post up here at least three times a week
  2. Utilize Twitter
  3. Throw some art on here at least once a week
  4. Actually use the Facebook page I made

Those are the basic ideas at least.  I’m not really sure what I’m going to talk about to be honest, but I’m sure I’ll figure that mess out.  I want to talk about my feelings about stuff and have a conversation with you.  A positive and chill conversation.  I think that’s what we need.

I think that’s about everything that I wanted to say here.

Until next time!


(And honestly I would use the hickety-heck out of Instagram if my arms worked but alas.)

#RAKWEEK2017 (5)

(guest post by Chriseda Crow – Mom)

Today is Random Acts of Kindness DAY 2017. Really, though, every day is a day for kindness. Showing kindness is so natural and connects to that part of us that is present in all of us. Performing acts of kindness can help each of us to live our happiest lives.

You’ve all likely seen this video so, maybe watch it again and get those kindness juices flowing. This is the good stuff.

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(guest post by Chriseda Crow – Mom)


Day three of Random Acts of Kindness Week 2017! Feeling good? Yes!

There are several side effects of kindness and they are all pretty awesome. Dr. David Hamilton explains them in a book and on his website but I have outlined a couple below.

1) Kindness Makes us Happier
When we do something kind for someone else, we feel good. On a spiritual level, many people feel that this is because it is the right thing to do and so we’re tapping into something deep and profound inside of us that says, ‘This is who I am.’

On a biochemical level, it is believed that the good feeling we get is due to elevated levels of the brain’s natural versions of morphine and heroin, which we know as endogenous opioids. They cause elevated levels of dopamine in the brain and so we get a natural high, often referred to as ‘Helper’s High’.

2) Kindness Is Good for the Heart
Acts of kindness are often accompanied by emotional warmth. Emotional warmth produces the hormone, oxytocin, in the brain and throughout the body. Of recent interest is its significant role in the cardiovascular system.

Oxytocin causes the release of a chemical called nitric oxide in blood vessels, which dilates (expands) the blood vessels. This reduces blood pressure and therefore oxytocin is known as a ‘cardioprotective’ hormone because it protects the heart (by lowering blood pressure). The key is that acts kindness can produce oxytocin and therefore kindness can be said to be cardioprotective.

check the others here.


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(guest post by Chriseda Crow – Mom)

Happy Valentine’s Day! On this day, love doesn’t have to be expressed only to those for whom you have a romantic interest. Let your friends know. Let your sibs know. Let yourself know. Let you fellow humans know with kindness. Today is the second day the RAKWEEK2017. Maybe you take your extra quarters to the coin laundry and preload a few washing machines for random strangers to happen upon. Chances are you make them feel lucky and put smiles on their faces.