An Open Letter to The Mars Company

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Dear Mars Company,

The other day while traveling to the grocery store with my mom, I came across a 3.7oz package of M&Ms. Splashed atop the upper right corner of the package was a bold proclamation. You have taken it upon yourselves to declare this 3.7oz package a “sharing” size. Now, I understand that you, a faceless corporation driven by numbers, may think that 3.7oz is perfect for sharing but I am here to tell you that you are wrong. Who am I sharing with? An infant? The only entity I am likely to share 3.7oz of chocolate with is me. A more appropriate size to slap with that label would be 12oz or more. Your consideration for my caloric intake is unnecessary and frankly, unwanted. You’re not the boss of me. I will eat however many M&Ms as I see fit and no, I am not sharing.

Love and smiles,



Imagine People Complexly

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I was watching a Vlogbrothers video on YouTube (for those who don’t know, the Vlogbrothers channel is run by John and Hank Green wherein they cover many humorous and insightful topics such as Baby On The Road and The Five Worst Places To Vomit) when John Green spoke of imagining others complexly. It was then that I realized that the reason I started this blog was because of the general failure of others to imagine me, a disabled person, complexly. This isn’t an uncommon problem, and it doesn’t just happen to people like me. Rather, it is part of the human condition.

Today, May 1st, marks the beginning of ALS Awareness Month 2K15. This month I want to challenge you to look beyond first impressions and think of what other people are feeling. Go beyond your human-ness. Consider that other human lives are also filled with deadlines, and communications, responsibilities, circumstances, relationships, stressors, cravings, needs, loves, joys, happenings and so on. Complexities. Imagine others complexly. Especially when it is hard to do so. You may find that in imagining others complexly, you let go of judgements. Not only of others but of yourself.

Love and smiles,


P.S. If you are interested, you can get “Imagine Me Complexly” button.